The 5 major development strategies of single parent families

1. for the children to create a pleasant family atmosphere
Children from the age of 2 will be able to feel the real sense of family atmosphere, different family atmosphere will make the child in mind, attitude and behavior in general to make a different response. If the child at home feel happy and secure, their psychological and character will be able to get good development; if the home all day quarrelling, children are always in suspense, fear of the environment, it is easy to produce adverse emotional and behavioral problems.
In the kindergarten, we often find that children of single parent families tend to exhibit the introvert, fear, sadness, anxiety, apathy or aggressive etc. adverse psychological and behavioral tendencies. They are always a little cry and make noise, and difficult to stop. These adverse psychological and behavioral tendencies, if not timely to correct guidance, there will be a deviation. Therefore, single parent families should pay special attention to create a happy family atmosphere for their children, which is conducive to the formation of good character and the healthy development of psychology.
2. for children to create a good cultural atmosphere
As a single parent families the father or mother, to pay great attention to the great influence of its child behavior, psychological state and personality characteristics that may arise, we should always pay attention to your behavior, don’t in front of the children showed bad habits, such as lying, slip of the tongue and don’t take responsibility. Not according to their own emotions to treat the child. Otherwise, the adverse impact of the bad habits, often make a hey children gradually astray.
Can often take their children to listen to music, look at the painting and calligraphy exhibition, and children playing fun games and so on, for the children create a good cultural atmosphere, make the child as soon as possible from losing the pain of paternal or maternal love to come out, and gradually develop a confident, cheerful character.
3. let the children learn to bear family responsibility
Don’t because the child lost father or mother especially to coddle him, to be assured that boldly let the children to do whatever we can, let children know the family, if necessary, please slightly older children to major events in the family together to participate in the decision-making and so on. To encourage more children to do what they can, so as to cultivate their children’s ability to be independent. Let the children know that they have a certain responsibility to the family, so that they can consciously assume the responsibility of the family to the community when they grow up.
4. more for children to create interpersonal environment
According to the characteristics of children with single parent families tend to tend to be introverted and withdrawn characteristics, so that children more contact with the community, and more for children to create a number of opportunities for interpersonal communication, is a good treatment method. many children or parents do not bring up the child or parents to raise children in turn, in order to facilitate the growth of the child
In the process of children’s growth, father and mother are essential, single parent families to to satisfy the child desire for these two kinds of love. Not to bring up the child or parents to visit children or parents to take turns raising children, which is very beneficial to the growth of children.

“Often people who lie will lose people’s trust, you want daddy do not believe you?”

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When children lie
Loosely first grade. A few days ago she told my father says, she examinations of the second class, my father is very happy, but also reward the loose. But the door a few days later, the teacher would give parents loosely called to say loosely performance is getting worse, the class teacher attention span, not lectures, parents want to explore the child’s learning problems. Dad an ignorant, originally loosely lying, she did not test what second class, but did not pass exams.
Secret children education case analysis
Lying is intentionally not speak the truth, is a dishonest act. This erroneous behavior of the child lie if not curbed, can make children gradually develop a deception of bad habits. So how do you correct the child lying in the bad habits?
First of all, you have no such experience, when the child honestly tell you he’s only 50 points in math, you become angrily scolding him up? If you have had, the child lying vowel you should know what it is.
Of course, children are not the only reasons to lie it, to correct the child’s habit of lying, as parents, we must be able to accept and sympathize with the children, the children have no fear of a situation. When a child tells you that he had only a 50 points mathematics, first do to him angry, but be analyzed kindly let him know got it wrong reasons, then symptomatic under prescription. In a situation where there is no blame warmth, the child will know that he really did not need to lie.
Treat the child lie, it is necessary to criticize, but also tolerance. When found the child lying, the important thing is to educate children, to help him recognize the dangers lie, tell the children: “? Often liars membership lose the trust of others, do not you hope your father no longer trust you,” Let the children own answer, Mom and Dad later whether to trust him, if you want parents to trust him, and then after that you should not lie. The resulting short-term happiness lie just self-deception, lose the trust of parents, teachers and students. In children admitted lying and said that after not remedied in the future, you should welcome, and am confident that he will correct, it has become a welcome honest man. This helps children get rid of the bad habit of lying. Do children have to admit its mistakes, the attitude has also taken the punishment beatings and so on, even to the children write a guarantee on the wall. This approach will seriously hurt the child’s self-esteem, often counterproductive.

“Mother would like to see you do it yourself Oh!”

When children lack daily living
Secret children education (China Women’s News) survey reported that our children living skills and ability is not optimistic, in primary and secondary schools, 26% of parents worry about every day wear more children, 30 percent of children are not even simple meals do while in kindergarten. 60% of children daily living skills and ability is very low, it does not tie his shoe. Do not wear clothes. Some even have to eat the adults feed. Due to lack of the necessary practical skills training. Children are prone to a condition known as “feel schizophrenia” of the disease, such as poor child self-control, and some are too shy, and some particularly disruptive. It is understood that. In some big cities, there are nearly thirty percent of children have varying degrees of feeling integrated imbalance.
case analysis
The main difference between children and parents ability parenting the way. Many parents like taking on everything, everything yourself: Some parents also underestimate the child’s autonomy, which also do not think that children can not do: There’s too much of a child’s parents to learn, even learning that the child as long as the good, Other things do not have to be in accordance with, and so on.
As the saying goes:. “Grossly hundred times better to hand to do it again,” Let the children more hands is an important way to promote a child’s intellectual development, through the hands of activities that can promote the development of the various regions of the brain. We often say “ingenuity.” In fact, the manual dexterity to mind. Children’s strong hands can also make the child more confident, the courage to explore. Exercise the child’s ability in the process, a sense of responsibility: love, perseverance can get culture.
Understandably, when children lack daily living, their parents should be promptly into line culture. In small children, you can let him learn to organize their own toys, yourself hands, wash, strip and other small things. The child is bigger, you can let him clean the house, wash small items such as handkerchiefs, to help mom and dad to pick up some lighter objects. Louder, may be responsible for watering flowers, washing dishes, mopping the floor, sorting clothes and so on. This will not only be able to exercise the child’s self-care ability, but also to cultivate children a strong sense of ownership. Parents should give children timely appropriate incentives, when children do not do well when eagerly for him to do right away, not easily blame him against the child’s self-confidence, can give appropriate guidance. Some children may be very interested in the beginning of the housework, over time, a bit bored. At this time, parents must adhere to, should always tell the children: “!! Mom would like to see you do it yourself, oh come, try” to develop the child’s own housework good habit to cultivate children’s perseverance, do not give up halfway.
In addition, children should be appropriate by the point of frustration. In Japan there is such a child’s education saying: “In addition to sun and air are the gift of nature, all the other must be obtained through their own labor.” So most of the children in Japan should participate in work-study work during the holidays: a small number of Some children will participate in whatever labor, high school students will go to some welfare agencies to help, such as caring for the elderly, and some students have to teach, to a restaurant washing dishes, or engage in promotions. Japanese feel, pair the children, the two most important thing is education and self-reliance. In fact, one more important thing is to have the ability to think independently and a strong personality, which is more important than to live independently.

Secret children education “I know what you think is right, but your attitude makes me very uncomfortable.”

When children always talk back
Secret children education Talk back? Fire guts really ah! For those of us parents do not allow a child to talk back to people. See their own children and how shocking it talk back! 8-year-old son can Mr. Zhang has been learned back to their parents talk back, if there is not anything to do according to his request, he will be with parents’ top forever. Even so often Mr. Zhang and Zhang wife said: “You Why should I?”
“I do not you tube!” Or “I will not do as you say. That was very stupid!” This makes Zhang couples very sad.
case analysis
In all likelihood, the child is trying to talk back from the television or next door, where the older children have learned, they talk back, they often themselves unaware of this behavior is wrong, but parents must be aware of: you can Allow children to refute some of the issues holding the attitude, so that children and their parents together to discuss a particular problem, as it can train their minds, but vexatious style talk back will only encourage children to develop bad habits do not respect others. This is regardless of the parents, or the children, is a negative thing, must be stopped. There is no room for negotiation.
If your child usually are more polite, so simply and directly said to him: “You speak in the talk back, oh, not this.” This is a great way to recognize your child the chance of error, After your child is not easy to do it again.
But if your child is not obedient, that do not use sarcasm or refute him, the more so because the more easily arouse the child rebellious mood. If you can calm a little, but the effect will be better. For example, you can talk to children, said: “I know what you think are right, but your attitude makes me very uncomfortable, if you can change an attitude I will be more happy.” “You’re usually not the case with my father talking, today not the school what makes you happy? Maybe I can help you. “Such children said those noted however you do not feel happy, then let the children be able to talk back to his parents realized that the behavior is wrong. And you more calm, more usual, the effect will be better.

“I’m glad to hear you speak, but I prefer to see you write them down.”

When the children chatter talked on
One mother recently was bored, because she just turned 6 years old children often do things in her time. Chatter around her to speak. This interference was doing things she could not feel at ease. But she felt they could not keep the kids talk, this will hurt the child.
case analysis
Expressed the desire to have children, maybe you think that it was far are some useless things. Available for children, he felt that it is important, he wanted to listen to Mom and Dad, Mom and Dad want with their share. Sometimes, and this is reflected in the child’s loneliness, his desire to exchange feelings with their parents.
But most self-centered child, when he wanted Mom and Dad happy to talk, but he does not consider the adequacy of talk time. If at this point you are busy other things, there is no time to talk with your child, be sure to use it, a positive response, let him know what you think, for example: “I’m glad to hear you speak, but I would prefer you to write down . As a mother now has other things to do, and secondly, my mother would like to see a little careful. “This prevents the children think they let parents hate, and let him know that parents do not want to talk to him, but now inappropriate. Also let the child know that he in addition to meet their wishes, we have to understand other people’s feelings and circumstances. It also provides children with another method of expression, took the opportunity to exercise your child’s writing skills, is a good thing Oh!
If a child because of a lack of emotional exchange with their parents at the time of chatter around you, then you have to do it in two ways: First, to arrange some time to speak with the children, to increase the exchange of feelings, so that children will not see you no end no more to say; Second, we must learn to teach children to learn, play, and gradually make the child’s feelings of independence.
In fact, children often speak not a bad thing, at least willing to communicate with you on behalf of his ability to express not too bad, but many of his ideas. However, never a good side, and sometimes the child will hostility harassment, this time you have to use a mild tone made it clear to the child that this is wrong, but remember not to rebuke the child.