The 5 major development strategies of single parent families

1. for the children to create a pleasant family atmosphere
Children from the age of 2 will be able to feel the real sense of family atmosphere, different family atmosphere will make the child in mind, attitude and behavior in general to make a different response. If the child at home feel happy and secure, their psychological and character will be able to get good development; if the home all day quarrelling, children are always in suspense, fear of the environment, it is easy to produce adverse emotional and behavioral problems.
In the kindergarten, we often find that children of single parent families tend to exhibit the introvert, fear, sadness, anxiety, apathy or aggressive etc. adverse psychological and behavioral tendencies. They are always a little cry and make noise, and difficult to stop. These adverse psychological and behavioral tendencies, if not timely to correct guidance, there will be a deviation. Therefore, single parent families should pay special attention to create a happy family atmosphere for their children, which is conducive to the formation of good character and the healthy development of psychology.
2. for children to create a good cultural atmosphere
As a single parent families the father or mother, to pay great attention to the great influence of its child behavior, psychological state and personality characteristics that may arise, we should always pay attention to your behavior, don’t in front of the children showed bad habits, such as lying, slip of the tongue and don’t take responsibility. Not according to their own emotions to treat the child. Otherwise, the adverse impact of the bad habits, often make a hey children gradually astray.
Can often take their children to listen to music, look at the painting and calligraphy exhibition, and children playing fun games and so on, for the children create a good cultural atmosphere, make the child as soon as possible from losing the pain of paternal or maternal love to come out, and gradually develop a confident, cheerful character.
3. let the children learn to bear family responsibility
Don’t because the child lost father or mother especially to coddle him, to be assured that boldly let the children to do whatever we can, let children know the family, if necessary, please slightly older children to major events in the family together to participate in the decision-making and so on. To encourage more children to do what they can, so as to cultivate their children’s ability to be independent. Let the children know that they have a certain responsibility to the family, so that they can consciously assume the responsibility of the family to the community when they grow up.
4. more for children to create interpersonal environment
According to the characteristics of children with single parent families tend to tend to be introverted and withdrawn characteristics, so that children more contact with the community, and more for children to create a number of opportunities for interpersonal communication, is a good treatment method. many children or parents do not bring up the child or parents to raise children in turn, in order to facilitate the growth of the child
In the process of children’s growth, father and mother are essential, single parent families to to satisfy the child desire for these two kinds of love. Not to bring up the child or parents to visit children or parents to take turns raising children, which is very beneficial to the growth of children.

Beach kids

Beach kids
Was born in 1926. Rushan, Shandong people. Author of novels of the two geese in the spring snow.
How happy two locks, to Grandma‘s House. He hadn’t come over to Grandma’s House in five years.


Grandma held it on the Yellow Sea. Village north is the port Canal and tides is a water, hope to also do not look to the side; at low tide, the sea receded, showing a yellow beach. Village South is a Sandy Ridge, Sha Ling is covered with a sandy Liao, standing on the Sandy Ridge saw the sea. Two locks like the sea! Blue, no edge, no Internet, and sparkled. What‘s the sea? Fish, crabs, shrimp, and fish, the teacher said there is such a large fish in the sea, larger than a House. But two locks do not see the big fish could not see even small fish. Two lock and strange: the fish ran to where is it?


My grandmother’s aunt and uncle in the home, there are big Tigers and little flowers sister. Two locks every day playing with Tiger on the beach, sand on the beach is fine and soft, both lying on the beach, open belly shirt Sun, Sun belly murmur chatterring. Tiger one year older than the two locks, but no second lock tall and readgrade, two locks is not admire him. He is also the captain, in the summer before joining the young pioneers, their squad is stronger than his ability. But Tiger did know how many b lock does not understand things, for example, large Tiger knows when tide, tide of what fish know what kind of crab are willing to climb out of the weather;also, in light of light suddenly turned up a clam on the beach; and will float. Two lock slowly admitted: there are plenty of things about the Sea Tiger know much. But why does he always say someone else is wrong with it! There are two locks is pleasedto tell Grandma: Grandma, today I saw the ship‘s sails, white as snow, so much, standing in the sea and it won’t move. Dahu plug in his mouth: who said not tomove, well, see it is! Two locks in the sea picked up some nice white things like boats, happy to show it to Tiger. Who knows the Tigers laughed: it is the fish Board, wehad to throw out, and you are going to move. Flowers immediately ran to tell her grandmother: Grandma, er lock picking up some fish to the Board. It’s a little tongue, Abel would love!


Two locks like tide all the time sitting on the beach, watching the tide around the horizon. Tide suffused with white foam blowing toward him, and he jumped back andwave into his heel back, bubble splash his face, chill. Waves and then came, he jumped back again. Under the tides to Sandy Ridge. He stood on the Sandy Ridge, the tide no longer came with him and slowly calmed down. Two locks is not happy, he was hoping to bring sea to Sandy Ridge.
Two locks most pleased and Tiger fish. Two men secretly taken out of the uncle‘s net, ran to the village in the North channel in Hong Kong. Whistling to the shore the tide ran. Hu pointed to the water and lowered his voice and shout: quick! Two locks,a school of fish! But two locked but there is not even a fish to see. When the tiger in his eyes into the adult, what Tiger said what he heard. Really, haven’t pulled the net to shore, jumping fish jumping in Ali. Two locks were like and worry, voice shouted himself hoarse. A network pulled a half buckets got a fish. Two locks looking at all these fish, like in a dream.


The tide, two locks and big tiger into the local drainage digging clams at the beach.Many beautiful patterns on the clam shell, very thick, as big as a fist. Clam deep beneath the sand, tide swept away the sand smooth, locks could not find the second, but the Tigers used a small hoe suddenly turned up a. Big tiger told two locks, whereclam has a small eye, because clams to leave a hole and catch my breath. Two lock at the beach is filled with small eyes, dig a few eyes, just dug up a few fingers big little crabs. He was disappointed, Tiger said to him, this clam digging in the sand, to diginto the local drainage North of the beach, where the clams very much.


How happy the second lock, when he wanted to go home, can bring a big box of clams to go back. When school starts, on his desk, put on five, no, ten or more, look to students, one pencil, one ink, a red color, green color … … Students have gatheredto his table, he gave each of them a no, normal and he hit it, he offered, no he didn’t give.


Two locks was secretly looking forward to the big tiger brought him North to Hong Kong on Canal, but the Tigers have no intention of going. Two locks have self-respect and he wouldn’t wanted to ask others, but more than anything in a hurry.

My children read

My children read
I realize the importance of spending time with children beginning in 2010, due to busy with their own work for a child until only the external form of care, and there isvery little inner spiritual communication, which I missed a lot of the critical period ofeducation. But I Yu May 2010 participate in has family happiness workshop Hou, realized that family on children of life up with far-reaching of effect, is not ignored of, I again adjustment himself of mentality and work arrangements, efforts learning good of family concept, put learn to of things application to actual life in the practice, this let I harvest has many family of wisdom, face problem also can came up with better of method for properly processing. Family education is a systematic project, family atmosphere, its personnel and ways of doing things will affect the child, if we educate our children and only talk about kids that is local, is not perfect. If we really want to let the children fully good development, family members their own behavior andattitude is very important, especially as MOM and dad, to keep pace with the keeppace with the children, do the child‘s guardian and leader.
Growing with children in many ways, reading with children is one of them, then I amwith children reading way to talk about my experience of growing up with this:
Read one, and may promote feelings between parents, to communicate the contents of the book are emotional exchange with each other, it should at least do something in the read, called read in addition to reading a book together, which also implies the need for the presence of resonance, resonance is generated in the Exchange.If they just read, children are only interested in their understanding, without any communication with each other, then the children and the parents ‘ emotions are unable to blend together, but not increasing emotional. Assuming no communication, your life, your world is the lack of love and joy. Most of today‘s children lack of enthusiasm and motivation, is related to this from the lack of communication with them,does not have a source of love can have a sustained
Second, the read has the opportunity to exchange between parents and children,and in Exchange, you can keep abreast of children‘s inner thoughts or way of thinking, so as to achieve effective guide. I remember one time my son and I read a shortstory, probably meant some students running for student body President, which one of the students broke through the previous campaign speeches, increased timelyhumor, finally leading number of votes was elected President of the Student Council. Son listens to the story said, MOM, if the school principal or teacher required in accordance with their requirements, and that students can elect to succeed?The news of her son‘s question, I felt that he was bound by certain provisions of thinking, I smiled and said to his son: a lot of times people will focus on results and the forgetting process, in fact, are the factors that determine the outcome, and processes can be diverse, as long as the process to others is happy, positive, sunshine, confidence and love, he will succeed in the end! My son nodded thoughtfully. Later when he ran for the school Brigade speeches I’ve seen in a slightly different place, especially on the momentum increased quite a bit of confidence. Training of primary school children are creative, good time, to create opportunities for children to experience as much as possible, only experience life to mature. Good children behave, if this goes on to lose creativity and imagination; naughty boy prone principle bottom line, know no borders. This need to carefully observe and guide parents in ordinary life, borrow a book or a story combining the traits of children inspired and guided, can either keep the child‘s face to maintain his dignity, or you can let him know how to go in the right direction.
Three, and total read of process is inspired children wisdom, and upgrade its in-depth thinking capacity of process, total read Shi seems children some not ready for of language expression and is parents education guide children of best opportunities, I and son with finished Catholic of power Hou, son on which of a words for has added, book in the of said is: Dang a only feet stepped on to has violet of petals Shang, we of soles is left has spent of fragrance, this is petals on we of Catholic. Son saidMOM, some flowers, you step on it, it‘s the smell sticks to your feet. “Was just a sentence Centerless of is words, this world was on has incense of spent and smelly of spent, and I was this among also can has another a of meaning to inspired children of life wisdom, I first on son words to he ask spent of type, in praised he of while and with is surprise of tone with son said:” mother found you this sentence words added have too good has, you inadvertently said has and people along in the of a phenomenon. Son blinked his eyes and looked at me, it was clear that he wanted to hear what this is? I said, some people are like flowers, they offend him, and some were Catholic, like violet scent left to others, others will have a heart of joy to him, to be close to him. And some take just revenge, like flowers to smell other people, other people hate on him, so as to avoid him, this phenomenon does exist. Put yourself in theirposition absolute good and evil cannot be said, nor can absolute who is right and who is wrong, if you do not know what to do with the son? My son smiled and said:of course I want to smell for others. Tolerance of others, be kind to yourself is a good way to a happy life, I hope that my son‘s life and your happiness, so I‘ll bit by bitto sow the seeds of happiness.
Episodes like this have a lot of life, today I share and ways to enumerate these points, hoping to bring you a heart of joy and also comes with a piece of advice to parents, from everyday lifetime listening to your child talk, children read the book are want someone to listen to him, parents listening can improve your child‘s interest in reading.

“Often people who lie will lose people’s trust, you want daddy do not believe you?”

Secret children education

When children lie
Loosely first grade. A few days ago she told my father says, she examinations of the second class, my father is very happy, but also reward the loose. But the door a few days later, the teacher would give parents loosely called to say loosely performance is getting worse, the class teacher attention span, not lectures, parents want to explore the child’s learning problems. Dad an ignorant, originally loosely lying, she did not test what second class, but did not pass exams.
Secret children education case analysis
Lying is intentionally not speak the truth, is a dishonest act. This erroneous behavior of the child lie if not curbed, can make children gradually develop a deception of bad habits. So how do you correct the child lying in the bad habits?
First of all, you have no such experience, when the child honestly tell you he’s only 50 points in math, you become angrily scolding him up? If you have had, the child lying vowel you should know what it is.
Of course, children are not the only reasons to lie it, to correct the child’s habit of lying, as parents, we must be able to accept and sympathize with the children, the children have no fear of a situation. When a child tells you that he had only a 50 points mathematics, first do to him angry, but be analyzed kindly let him know got it wrong reasons, then symptomatic under prescription. In a situation where there is no blame warmth, the child will know that he really did not need to lie.
Treat the child lie, it is necessary to criticize, but also tolerance. When found the child lying, the important thing is to educate children, to help him recognize the dangers lie, tell the children: “? Often liars membership lose the trust of others, do not you hope your father no longer trust you,” Let the children own answer, Mom and Dad later whether to trust him, if you want parents to trust him, and then after that you should not lie. The resulting short-term happiness lie just self-deception, lose the trust of parents, teachers and students. In children admitted lying and said that after not remedied in the future, you should welcome, and am confident that he will correct, it has become a welcome honest man. This helps children get rid of the bad habit of lying. Do children have to admit its mistakes, the attitude has also taken the punishment beatings and so on, even to the children write a guarantee on the wall. This approach will seriously hurt the child’s self-esteem, often counterproductive.

“Mother would like to see you do it yourself Oh!”

When children lack daily living
Secret children education (China Women’s News) survey reported that our children living skills and ability is not optimistic, in primary and secondary schools, 26% of parents worry about every day wear more children, 30 percent of children are not even simple meals do while in kindergarten. 60% of children daily living skills and ability is very low, it does not tie his shoe. Do not wear clothes. Some even have to eat the adults feed. Due to lack of the necessary practical skills training. Children are prone to a condition known as “feel schizophrenia” of the disease, such as poor child self-control, and some are too shy, and some particularly disruptive. It is understood that. In some big cities, there are nearly thirty percent of children have varying degrees of feeling integrated imbalance.
case analysis
The main difference between children and parents ability parenting the way. Many parents like taking on everything, everything yourself: Some parents also underestimate the child’s autonomy, which also do not think that children can not do: There’s too much of a child’s parents to learn, even learning that the child as long as the good, Other things do not have to be in accordance with, and so on.
As the saying goes:. “Grossly hundred times better to hand to do it again,” Let the children more hands is an important way to promote a child’s intellectual development, through the hands of activities that can promote the development of the various regions of the brain. We often say “ingenuity.” In fact, the manual dexterity to mind. Children’s strong hands can also make the child more confident, the courage to explore. Exercise the child’s ability in the process, a sense of responsibility: love, perseverance can get culture.
Understandably, when children lack daily living, their parents should be promptly into line culture. In small children, you can let him learn to organize their own toys, yourself hands, wash, strip and other small things. The child is bigger, you can let him clean the house, wash small items such as handkerchiefs, to help mom and dad to pick up some lighter objects. Louder, may be responsible for watering flowers, washing dishes, mopping the floor, sorting clothes and so on. This will not only be able to exercise the child’s self-care ability, but also to cultivate children a strong sense of ownership. Parents should give children timely appropriate incentives, when children do not do well when eagerly for him to do right away, not easily blame him against the child’s self-confidence, can give appropriate guidance. Some children may be very interested in the beginning of the housework, over time, a bit bored. At this time, parents must adhere to, should always tell the children: “!! Mom would like to see you do it yourself, oh come, try” to develop the child’s own housework good habit to cultivate children’s perseverance, do not give up halfway.
In addition, children should be appropriate by the point of frustration. In Japan there is such a child’s education saying: “In addition to sun and air are the gift of nature, all the other must be obtained through their own labor.” So most of the children in Japan should participate in work-study work during the holidays: a small number of Some children will participate in whatever labor, high school students will go to some welfare agencies to help, such as caring for the elderly, and some students have to teach, to a restaurant washing dishes, or engage in promotions. Japanese feel, pair the children, the two most important thing is education and self-reliance. In fact, one more important thing is to have the ability to think independently and a strong personality, which is more important than to live independently.

Secret children education “I know what you think is right, but your attitude makes me very uncomfortable.”

When children always talk back
Secret children education Talk back? Fire guts really ah! For those of us parents do not allow a child to talk back to people. See their own children and how shocking it talk back! 8-year-old son can Mr. Zhang has been learned back to their parents talk back, if there is not anything to do according to his request, he will be with parents’ top forever. Even so often Mr. Zhang and Zhang wife said: “You Why should I?”
“I do not you tube!” Or “I will not do as you say. That was very stupid!” This makes Zhang couples very sad.
case analysis
In all likelihood, the child is trying to talk back from the television or next door, where the older children have learned, they talk back, they often themselves unaware of this behavior is wrong, but parents must be aware of: you can Allow children to refute some of the issues holding the attitude, so that children and their parents together to discuss a particular problem, as it can train their minds, but vexatious style talk back will only encourage children to develop bad habits do not respect others. This is regardless of the parents, or the children, is a negative thing, must be stopped. There is no room for negotiation.
If your child usually are more polite, so simply and directly said to him: “You speak in the talk back, oh, not this.” This is a great way to recognize your child the chance of error, After your child is not easy to do it again.
But if your child is not obedient, that do not use sarcasm or refute him, the more so because the more easily arouse the child rebellious mood. If you can calm a little, but the effect will be better. For example, you can talk to children, said: “I know what you think are right, but your attitude makes me very uncomfortable, if you can change an attitude I will be more happy.” “You’re usually not the case with my father talking, today not the school what makes you happy? Maybe I can help you. “Such children said those noted however you do not feel happy, then let the children be able to talk back to his parents realized that the behavior is wrong. And you more calm, more usual, the effect will be better.

Secret children education “Because my mother a headache, so please be quiet, you will not want to get sick mom, right?”

When children too noisy
Any one of the parents, the family may have such a baby – he often cried: “Mom, I want you to accompany me ……” “Mom, I want to leave now, my feet hurt dead ……” or “I want to play next door Allison for a while. Do not stop me ……” Even with the increasingly high tone, but also often emerge some strange ideas. From early in the morning began noisy, until he fell asleep at night, the family have a little peace.
Secret children case analysis
Noisy children around the age of 6 is a normal thing, let him calm down really difficult, even if only so that he would feel he could quiet a few very tough. Children this age are vulnerable to setbacks, parents need to continue to help them do this and that, so he had to use noise to arouse the attention of parents. So noisy children also tried to cause a method parents attention.
If it is because you ignore the child that led him excessively noisy, then you should first review yourself, is not usually too little time with their children, they do not have time with their children, so that children feel lonely or neglected. If this is the case, of course, you want to find as much time with their children about the feelings of the promotion.
If not, the child noisy but he wanted to achieve a particular purpose. For example, I hope you can take him out to play, or to buy him a new toy, and so on, and this practice is usually very effective. This time you have to pay attention, maybe your behavior is the cause of the reason he often noisy.
For parents, the best way is the embryonic stage in the formation of the illnesses it killed off. If your child while shouting now, it might knelt down and his head-and then told him: “? Because my mother a headache today, so I hope you can be quiet, you certainly do not want my mother sick of it,” this squat speak with the children, not only to let the children feel that they are being taken seriously, and the mother’s words made him feel that their behavior is wrong and should be corrected, this effect on him than you yelling meal is much easier.
You can also make this game enjoyable way to make children understand the truth noisy is wrong. Selection of two toy animals do role-playing games, puppy do our best to send out the noise, but the mother dog showed a very unhappy appearance against; also allows the dog make all kinds of various Cheung voice, so children to judge these sounds to achieve their requirements issued in which the sound is correct. Thus, once the game you want to establish the concept of the kind of behavior when a child again noisy, you can quickly remind children what kind of sound is not correct. Over time, the child will gradually get rid of this bad habit.

“I’m glad to hear you speak, but I prefer to see you write them down.”

When the children chatter talked on
One mother recently was bored, because she just turned 6 years old children often do things in her time. Chatter around her to speak. This interference was doing things she could not feel at ease. But she felt they could not keep the kids talk, this will hurt the child.
case analysis
Expressed the desire to have children, maybe you think that it was far are some useless things. Available for children, he felt that it is important, he wanted to listen to Mom and Dad, Mom and Dad want with their share. Sometimes, and this is reflected in the child’s loneliness, his desire to exchange feelings with their parents.
But most self-centered child, when he wanted Mom and Dad happy to talk, but he does not consider the adequacy of talk time. If at this point you are busy other things, there is no time to talk with your child, be sure to use it, a positive response, let him know what you think, for example: “I’m glad to hear you speak, but I would prefer you to write down . As a mother now has other things to do, and secondly, my mother would like to see a little careful. “This prevents the children think they let parents hate, and let him know that parents do not want to talk to him, but now inappropriate. Also let the child know that he in addition to meet their wishes, we have to understand other people’s feelings and circumstances. It also provides children with another method of expression, took the opportunity to exercise your child’s writing skills, is a good thing Oh!
If a child because of a lack of emotional exchange with their parents at the time of chatter around you, then you have to do it in two ways: First, to arrange some time to speak with the children, to increase the exchange of feelings, so that children will not see you no end no more to say; Second, we must learn to teach children to learn, play, and gradually make the child’s feelings of independence.
In fact, children often speak not a bad thing, at least willing to communicate with you on behalf of his ability to express not too bad, but many of his ideas. However, never a good side, and sometimes the child will hostility harassment, this time you have to use a mild tone made it clear to the child that this is wrong, but remember not to rebuke the child.

“You play good fun ah! What can you tell me about the play?”

When the child too naughty
6-year-old is in the class of bright naughty. From morning to evening kindergarten to be picked up by my father, without a moment’s quiet time, even taking a nap is always tossing and turning in bed. Stretching his arms, kick the legs. Effect of other children to bed, go game. The teacher’s eyes have to keep searching for his shadow. A little attention, he would run out of the scope of activities, led several small naughty ran the grass, or drill into the corner of interest.
case analysis
In fact, naughty children should not be considered a bad habit, he just love to move than other kids, he loves to play it. However, if you let this naughty “carry forward” go on. It will not only affect the normal activities of other children, but also make him develop non-compliance with classroom discipline, safety rules and other illnesses.
But many parents face naughty child is often powerless, and often beaten by the way, I hope you can let the kids do not naughty point. But this way to educate children is unscientific.
In criticizing the child’s behavior, the best way is to encourage him, and then on the basis of encouragement, and then pointed his wrongdoing, so that the child is easier to accept. When your child is too naughty, you might say to him: “What are you so happy to play it play, what can you tell me about playing it??” The children see you are very interested in him, and he became he would be willing to play the game to tell you in detail. When you listen to his narrative, you may wish to give him his misdeeds noted, such as “best not to catch the blood of some insects Oh, they’ll bite your finger.” Or, “the park is not allowed to play in the water, This point you must remember it! “Thus, in the same time to encourage him, he should pay attention to the problem will tell him that the child will remember.
In fact, the naughty children are often smart kids. Their energy is abundant, at any time be able to find the game’s content and fun. These children’s powers of observation and memory and language skills often than other children, in a game they can take the initiative and active participation. Relatively speaking, those seem obedient, well-behaved child may have some difference in these areas.
Therefore, to allow children naughty, naughty so he observed in nature, to understand the social and enjoy the natural beauty, discover things, which play broaden thinking, increase their knowledge of the purpose.

“Baby, let mom and get rid of this trouble with you, OK?”

Ms. Gao 3-year-old daughter does not know when to begin, to develop a bad habit of biting. This is not health. Not only because of the hands of the already stained with a lot of bacteria, and children always play with a variety of toys by hand. Dirty things stick in your hand, a nail-biting, hands of the bacteria will have thorough understanding of the child’s stomach, affect a child’s health. This allows to Ms. annoyed.
case analysis
Many children and adults have around us and pull the nail biting habit. In all nervous habits, nail biting is the most common habits.
Many children develop this habit of reasons, such as a bad environment in which the child psychologically insecure. Often affected by mental stimulation: such as parents often quarrel, so that children produce loneliness and fear, feelings of rootless, it is easy to bite his finger. After repeatedly, gradually formed a bad habit because of stubborn.
But no matter how develop, nail biting after all, is a less bad health habits, we should help children get rid of. If the child has been able to understand the adults speak, then tell him this habit is unhealthy, and the child said:? “Mom I am sure you can get rid of, so that mothers get rid of this trouble with you is good.” After the child heard these words, the first own brain to form a “biting unhealthy” concept, and believe that the mother be able to help him get rid of, so that children have a concept, it will be easier to do.
You can try to let the children sit in front of a mirror, observe their own biting look, and tell him like this does not look good, but not liked, so that all children can make a strong touch. This approach is very spiritual.
For some children biting nothing to it, you can give him to do some better things. For example, to give him an inconspicuous little things: a rubber ball into a smooth stone, so he put in a nail-biting time to play them.
Do not forget to provide children with a safe, warm, relaxed living environment for children in this environment free life and get into proper protection. If the child is watching TV. Or if he can control biting into desire while watching TV, you can win an extra minute of time watching television.