Parents should not be said in front of the child

Parents taboo
“Eat snacks in the stomach will grow insects!”
This is not to deceive the child, but after all, contrary to the facts, such as “flexible” mode of education does not convince the child. When children to discover the truth of the truth, you will lose on their parents trust, or turned a deaf ear, or a tooth for a tooth, after using the same way towards their parents.
As a parent, you want to play a “mirror” role, to his serious and responsible, sincere kindness, with him to know the harm of eating snacks, believe that children will understand.
“How can you be so greedy”
Good thing everyone loves to eat, think about what you have found good food is not also “love”, I want to enjoy every day? There is no big difference between the child and your mind, the only difference is that he may not be able to control their desire to eat. So don’t scold the child, otherwise it will only hurt his pride, but also may make the child more and more careless; “eat snacks is greedy?? eat count greedy such errors.

When the children shouted to eat snacks

“Mom, I want to eat French fries, I also want to drink juice, eat ice cream – – – – – – – – – – – – – – – – – – – – – – – – – – – – – – – – -.
Ms. Zhang almost every day to hear the noise of her daughter, do not give her a crying, not to eat, but to meet the requirements of the child. Children eat snacks is not crying, dinner but eat very bad, sometimes eat County Mengbuken. The results of the child’s body go from bad to worse. Ms. Zhang is very upset.
The child’s stomach capacity is relatively small, a food intake is limited, hungry faster, appropriate to eat some snacks is not a bad idea, you can add some nutrients and calories. In addition, snacks can also adjust the taste of food, the kind of relaxed state of mind when eating snacks is not the time when the dinner. Therefore, snacks for children, is not all bad.
But should pay attention to is, snacks contain sugar and energy was significantly higher than that of dinner sugar content and energy, but nutrients is not comprehensive. Often eat snacks easy to cause a variety of health care problems, such as dental caries, nutrient intake and poor appetite, etc.. And now a lot of coke into the child’s life, such as coke and other drinks, if you drink too much, but also cause headaches, dizziness, irritability, heart rhythm, shortness of breath and other symptoms, but also lead to a large amount of muscle will lead to muscle, writing, hand trembling. And because caffeine is a stimulant, can stimulate gastric motility and gastric acid secretion, cause intestinal cramps, so often drink caffeine drinks children prone to unexplained abdominal pain.
Can be seen, the child is too fond of snacks, a lot of harm to the body, parents should be given to correct. Parents at the time usually to master to the children to eat snacks, generally can be arranged between the dinner after a meal or two meals, but also make the pinch to the amount of snacks, even in between meals, snacks volume is less, otherwise the same will affect the dinner food intake. The children’s snacks should also pay attention to the selection of snacks. Fruit should be the first choice, it can help digestion, but also to add a variety of vitamins; and some too sweet or heat too large food, such as ice cream, candy, etc., it is best not to put them as a spare of snacks.
In addition, parents don’t abuse snacks to coax a child, when children licensing gas, do not use snacks to distract him, promised to some of his unreasonable demands. Otherwise it will make the child feel snacks is a reward, is very good thing, in the intention to strengthen the child’s eating habits, and so that children learn to eat snacks to bargain. In this regard, the parents can not prevent.

When children do not love to eat

Round 5 years old, always doesn’t love to eat, even the smell of delicious food, but also the round pick. My mother often of round said: “do not love to eat cannot grow strong, not afraid of you?” but round or in anger say: “I am not want to eat well!” I didn’t play a role.
Mother wants to know that the child in kindergarten is not the way it is. So one day while the circle of the time to ask the teacher, the teacher said she is not love to eat, often only to eat meat, rice and vegetables are left. Mother listened to very anxious, the child such nutrition how to reach it? It seems that it is a boring thing to persuade the child to eat.
Case analysis
All the parents do not want their children to eat junk food, didn’t love, want their children to be able to love all the food. But no one has to eat or even do not eat something, parents may have, not to mention the child. Even very young children, they have their own interests and hobbies. But if the child in the stage of a long body, often a partial eclipse, picky eaters, nutrition can not meet the body’s needs, it is prone to malnutrition, affect the child’s normal growth and development.
But, if you want to change the child’s interest and hobby, it is equal to change the child’s original intuition, but also to change the value of the child’s own formation. It’s not an easy thing to do. Remember when you were young, there are also a lot of food that can not swallow it?
Said that although the child refuses to eat one of the two kinds of food did not influence the growth process, caused by frail reason is not due to a child does not eat a certain food, but if the child partial eclipse effect to the rationality of the diet, as parents. And this is the time to consider how to change the idea of children the.
First of all, you want to let the child feel that you care about him, “do not like to eat this kind of food does not matter, if the mother for a pattern to do you have no interest?” Slowly let him correct this bad habit, do not be anxious for success, not to force children to eat. You can directly to the child said: “you can slightly a little bit of taste, because taste lunch today and yesterday is not the same sip, the mother can you don’t taste any different.” With this kind of talk and talk with the child, the child’s curiosity will be mobilized, he would also like to know today’s lunch in the end what is different with yesterday. If he tries to eat, he may feel that the taste of this food is also very good, the next may not be rejected.
Also, parents often give children speak partial eclipse, picky eaters, do not love to eat to health brings adverse effects, take encourage the attitude of let the children gradually corrected. For example, parents can also say: “do you know what chicken eat? They eat rice, eat grass, leaves. Do you know why? Because chickens light to eat rice, not strong, after eating vegetables, their bodies it looks fast and well. ” In such a subtle, some of the child’s habits will slowly corrected.
In real life, parents should also try to the food delicious, and pay attention to the daily food type corresponding to the match, increase a child eating desire. For example, children do not eat vegetables, the vegetables can be incorporated into the meat into meat stuffing in the brake, and then make meatballs.

Children with psychological addiction


Psychological addiction: Let mom headache animation, comics “little fat Rao Friends”
  Children too naughty child, could not explain. Family always has his tinkling sound, my grandmother took him out to play, too easy, do not know where to go T. child’s father and mother are to go to work, the elderly grandmother to worry, often put him on the TV front, let him watch cartoons. This trick really works, children are attracted cartoon, quiet a lot, the side effects are also quite large. State after children on the child, each school, the first thing is to turn on the TV watching cartoons, he could immerse them in a self-allocated heap, and even moved to front of the TV to eat dinner. Mom realized, so can not go on, she began to develop “Look limit order”, the child began to cry gates, tantrums, her mother relented, could not help the children of agonizing, she figured out a way, Jesus is to allow the children to see cartoons, comic instead of TV, in order to reach an agreement. Who knows the child soon fell into comics, became a little fancier.
  Mom did not limiting, but also eye secretly happy, children like to see, “book”, which is a big and good! But where is mom to imagine things like Shao. After primary school children, do not like reading, his understanding is not very good, my mother did not know, a small comic enthusiasts, usually only like to watch cartoons, the books they do not like to see the text of it!

In fact, whether the child is watching television or comics liter, or playing video games, must pay attention to a “degree.” Moderate extinction, and to be able to adjust the mood, increase a little experience, but more than this degree, it is called “psychological addiction” is not a good thing,
  Addicted to television a little Qiu “drug addiction”, especially drama. For us adults, the hit TV series, see Ding depends on a set that is not fun, so most of Nao remember every story development. When asked long, you will find white L: long time immersed in the episode, not only in sight F drop, even Gan Chih Chang electrical skills would have decreased (kids immersed in the TV cartoon to, yeah Send greater risk a. child in front of the TV, when back Yimin, mountain Yan Zhi gang not ignore it and play with no social skills Zhao culture to a mountain j ‘lack of physical exercise, Hugh quality open clam becomes Points 1 Mountain one thousand Ogawa thinking, thinking gradually weakened, distractibility 1 seed because the eyes tightly cho television, blurred vision, a little mountain child chat with mom and dad, the two sides appeared to open clams gap • • • • • • And, yes polybutylene to seven children, they often confuse reality with virtual • Some children watch more television, always worried about violence in television happen to them.

Music is also harm addiction. A man hiding in the room, no communication with anyone, forget food of sleep appears to be obsessed with Jing Videos • love reading, is actually afraid of being found hiding. Man restaurant is very imaginative, but his imagination could not pass through the comic kids. Sink drain to the West set up a child, they just want to look at the plug rather than buildings and more rotten, slowly, you will find them weaker reading skills, and they also limited imagination, imagine, all day bite the diagram • see their own minds are too lazy to move, with wings that do not fly away slightly imagination!
   Faced with animation, draw a small hair Rao Jing Friends, Working Mother training him or persuade him, he was there, clinging like a mother’s have a big head! Of course, the approach is not without.

Not restrictive working moms to encourage children to freedom graffiti

Color sensitive period: not restrictive working moms to encourage children to freedom graffiti

Color sensitive period

   Weekend afternoon, as the sun like a golden egg tarts quietly changed direction, quietly shines on her mother to buy a new coat. “Mom, look, really beautiful,” Mom put down the Rain refers to the seen: the dough clothes, suffused with another on the light, that rhyme chant, a little edge Thriving Thriving peach. “Oh, child of color began to be interested in it!” Mom sighs.

  Come on, let out looking for Tata play.” Little guy excitedly holding her mother‘s hand, along the way, she told her mother that she and Tata recently at a small animal dress, mother heard somehow. Until the Tata family, only made two small Kun original content partner in the “engage in the arts.” Tata family table, stood two children masterpiece. They give small animal coloring coloring book, which is called the daughter fishing “for small animals to wear clothes.” Chestnuts there they do origami and origami frogs, are also painted with colorful colors.

Tata family’s black board, chalk is a good child colors covered with random combinations of lines, as covered with a thin layer of snow has never been color on the walls, there are small pieces of writing, all tower Rain Tower and works on the roof was falling colorful balloons, really full of light and color  small world: this time, the mother has a trace of a sense of shame plague swept mind: he was busy working, busy making preserves , even ignoring the daughter of color sensitive period!

  The children of color present in the sensitive period of three to four years old, and this time, they like to have the color of clothes, brightly colored toys, like coloring, like random draw, color and make them appreciate the fun of creation. Mao as their creativity and power are rapidly enhance the color of cognition. In this sensitive period, some mothers fear their children graffiti, always limit him, which actually limit the child’s mental development.

  Smart mom, never hit the child with graffiti initiative
When children graffiti, whether good or bad painting, mothers do not just go and evaluation, because in any case, the county is his way of expressing their understanding of the world. Mom also not too early to send their children to remedial classes that focus on painting techniques. Once a child has been hit this time interest, his imagination and creativity will be difficult to develop to a better level.

Arranged around the house a country full of color
Some mothers, their favorite color is relatively simple, it will put everything at home decorating into a unified color. So it looks neat some, but the lack of color Smart, is not conducive to children’s mental development of color sensitive period.

  You better get some more color at home, there was my mother, she is just an ordinary Mongolian mother, but the culture of the three artists. She actually understand education, but she was doing the right thing. In three or four children when she was going to the fields of labor, he started for home put the piles of colorful balloons, and thus, the color integrated into the children’s world.

  What you probably did not think artists culture is still more children of color perception, so that his mental health development, which is what you want is not it?

  You can try at home to put some color different furniture, jewelry, or arranged an art area, a charge dating back a little color studio, give the child a free authoring environment. Leisure time, to bring the child to walk around the mountain, imagination in nature, graffiti on paper, this mussel is a good method of promoting child development.


Young mother needs education Arts


If the young mothers will be able to know how welcomed and loved by the children, which is very beneficial to improve arts education.
“Incompetent mother” disappointing
Child: I like singing, dancing, pinch mud, but my mother would not, but for my questions have never enthusiastic answer.
Comments: The children’s curiosity and thirst for knowledge are strong, if my mother always answer any of them, it will make the child feel very disappointed. While the child’s early language development is also very negative.
TV Mama” cold child
Children: Mom always sitting in front of a free television, television programs more important than my mom weight.
Comments: If the mother and child do together lacking games, read books and children to the opportunity to carry out family activities in nature, so he grew up also likes to watch TV, but not good and people communicate, communicate.

“Harsh mother” child restraint
Children: Mom bent me develop into a versatile little prodigy,” I learned a lot, but she was not satisfied.
Comments: The kids generally do not like too harsh mother, the child will often in a not free, being bound state.
Comparisons mother” boring
Children: Mom always praise a colleague or neighbor’s child is stronger than me.
Comments: This unique approach to fostering children’s personality and self-confidence of a disadvantage.
“Humble mother” oppressive child
Children: In front of the guests, I always like to show their best at the long term, but my mother always in front of others that I do well.
Comments: In front of outsiders, children are often more exciting, like performance. But my mother thought that the child’s “Ren Laifeng” for parents to lose face, or to show their Jiaoziyoufang, in front of witnesses accused child.


Child’s self-consciousness sensitive period

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Sensitive period of self-consciousness: Dry Wan do not get the child’s behavior

   Lazy afternoons, lively children’s playground.
   Grandma Yaya led to play here. Two years old Yaya likes to say “no.” This does not, she has begun.
   Someone asked; let me play with your toys do,” she replied: “No!”
   She was bananas, acquaintance asked; “Let me eat it,” she said: “No, very cool.” Cool you eat, I’m not afraid cold, give me something, Yaya bananas hide behind. tell the adults; “I have finished. ʱ??

   Yaya random graffiti with crayons on paper, a child walked Zhu, and she would draw together, let Yaya life and death, my grandmother gave the child a crayon, Yaya crying, “My, my give me • • • • • • “Just at that moment, Yaya hands quick to put the child down, snatch away their own crayons, grandmother said Yaya naive, can Yaya said” hit you! . “

Yaya on the slippery slide play for a while, to tell other children: “I do not play with you, and I returned home to find her aunt.” Then, Yaya should drove his small car to go home. Also like a child next to follow her to see her aunt, she would not let go clamoring: “My aunt, not your aunt, you should not go!” The kids did not back down, quickly sitting in the co-pilot of a small car, Yaya just put children to push off, but this time grandmother, granddaughter ran to catch up, but it did not stop her beating. Grandma was very angry, she told her mother things after work. Mom think this child is too used to, how to become so? Selfish and violent, the future can not do everything according to her!

  Mother and grandmother actually misunderstood the child’s behavior, which in fact indicate the child has entered the sensitive period of self-awareness. In the year and a half to three years old the age of the child, his self-consciousness began to germinate, he began to realize what is their own, what is someone else’s, he realized what rights they have, what kind of responsibility, awareness he and others are not the same, there is a certain limit, and he said, “I” word began to develop to say “no” “no” “No”, then is hit, bite to protect their own interests . Performance point of view, this period children become self-centered, selfish, rude, in fact, he is going through a period of mental development.


Some misunderstand the behavior of children‘s mother, I will think this is a good opportunity to teach children to share, let him come out from selfishness, which in fact is nothing in the idea. This time, you let him share with others, but not conducive to the establishment of his self-consciousness, so he grew up on a relatively weak character, easy to accommodate others. You certainly do not want this, then do not go to teach him to share with people. You know, the kids after this sensitive period, you do not teach him to share, he will give good things to share with others, in exchange for his desire to get something.


How to deal with the sensitive period in a child’s language

Child sensitive period

Language sensitive period: working moms nagging” point, articulate child
    Looking over the two and a half children recently discovered the “New World“You go.” He felt that these words have infinite magic. When someone comes to his house guest, he would occasionally say to people, “You go.” People do not go, he has been urging the side, and made guests very embarrassing. Mom also very upset, give the child to explain a lot of times, guests must be polite, do not say such things. Children keen on the idea, but did not change, recently always love to curse. The family did not know that he is whom to learn. The children finished after these hurtful language. Also always Le Diandian.
    In fact, these words devastated found huge force that he just say the last ten days, you can let other people become angry, become blush, and even make each other really embarrassed to leave, this is how fun and wonderful thing ah! curse is not who taught, but he heard someone say, and then he wanted to try. Look who scolded angry, let him feel interesting.Now looking over the performance actually entered the language-sensitive outbreak. Others, such as the continued use of a new word, because thinking faster than the language development appear stuttering, whispering, etc. are also sensitive to the outbreak of the sign language. Sensitive period of language is relatively not long, it spiral development, from zero until about thirty years old. In two to four years old when the outbreak will enter the language-sensitive period, and since then, development of language skills begin to slow.

  Language sensitive period in a child can hear the sound when it has already begun, although at that time he did not speak, but he will always pay attention to listen to the adults talk. Child’s mind is absorptive capacity, he is not only in listening to the sound, can absorb large people face, he started babbling about one year old, will simply call, until about two years old language popping phenomenon began to appear, has been until about four years old. This time he would say more, the simple words into sentences, three four, to use their own language to tell stories, and this period is the golden period of language development in children, if the mother can provide He spoke a lot of opportunity to practice his language skills will be rapid development at this stage.

Mom “long-winded” point, articulate child

  Here the “long-winded” is not to be nagging mothers, but that the mother and child must be more than talk. You can put some things happen in life to tell the children to listen to, or give the child a story. Note that at the time described, must be clear and vivid language. My mother and child can be more dialogue, such as ask him:?? “Grandma take you where today Wanla” “What fun thing to do.” If the child is not clear expression or say complete, you will help him add . For example, tell your child, “niu today, hitting his head, and fell down.” You can say this sentence is more complete: “Today niu come, in this place and fell, hitting his head, is not it?” In short You have to keep saying repeatedly that specification to say, and vivid that when the child language skills made progress, you can not forget or harm him!

  My mother can take their children out to play, such as going to the supermarket, to tell him the name and characteristics of various items; to patrol the street, the street of shops tell him; go to the zoo, know those animals. Children see the world more, also articulate a.

  During this period, the mother should be noted that, if the child has a stutter, try not to accuse him speak not agile, slurred speech, you need to give him enough time for him to change slowly.


To guide their children into nature, to improve observation

Small things sensitive period: to guide their children into nature, to improve observation

  Small children, does not care about what kind of wear cute clothes, does not care about what kind of wearing a small hat, but do not focus on what to eat something every day, their concern is – sand, water, cookie crumbs, ant mosquitoes, flowers, thread, small patterns, pebbles, STRING, tunnel, ladybug • • • • • • adults do not understand, they think these small things there is nothing to see? But the child at this stage is like a small thing. Most of the time they will be a place to squat motionless, intently observed pebbles on the ground, tracking ant mosquito deeds, looking for a hole in the ground one after another, which in fact marked the child grows into the small things, the sensitive period.

  Generally, this sensitive period from the beginning of the year and a half, continued until about four years old, in this period, those small things in a child’s eyes is very novel, always give him untold fun of. In fact, this is the beginning of the observation of small things, the ability of children to observe, so in this period, the mother to understand the child, do not bother to stop child focus on small things, and to have enough patience to appreciate the child’s cute act, to ensure safety Under the premise, give him some freedom, so that his powers of observation may be raised.

Take their children into the nature, let him go to observe
   Nature is always the best teacher a child, the mother can take advantage of a weekend or holiday, take their children to get out, so he contacted more small things in nature, to enhance his ability to observe.

   Mom do with the adult world of utilitarian mind to secretly give children set goals. Such children to the park, hoping that children know more about several plants. Mom purpose too, the child ear explain various plants or small things habits characteristics, may make the child tired of feeling. Do not disturb mother observed the child when he was in full swing, stop him, you give the children the opportunity of independent observations. He looked small insects, small leaves, small flowers, you do like a spectator. When a child asks you, you then positive answer him. One mother would do well.

Mom recently made concept, the baby always love to pick on the ground bread crumbs and hair, but also love my mother used to do it manually when small beads, the mother realized the baby’s tiny things sensitive period came, she did not tell the baby “dirty bread crumbs , dirty hair, do not pick up, “but let him more contact with some small things. She often children to the community garden to play, let the children focus on flowers and nature scenes, children found on the ground there is a round, very smooth stone, not the same as before seen, he uttered exclaimed, “Huh? ! “Mom told him it was goose d stone, next, the child begins to seriously” study “pebbles, he put it in small hands, and slowly clutched in his hand, it seemed to feel the texture of cobblestone. Finally, he concluded that “cool.” “Hard” and later found to have a child is this stone-paved road, so at those times my mother work, he hurried grandmother took him to the point of view of that path pebble garden ,

  Children are also particularly concerned about ants carrying food garden and residence in the flower ladybug, even mosquitoes and dragonflies. He observed that when they are very focused. He also collected the garden snail, after her mother found him prepared a small glass bottle, cork is the mother deliberately pierced apertures. He can put a small snail into them, and then my mother gave snail provide tasty leaves.

Of course, the child is too small, ant mother gave him the freedom to be conditional, must ensure that the child’s safety. Without children to a busy street, no more kids to trash the place, for some small things, my mother is to take them to hide, such as desiccant, camphor ball, pill, cockroaches drugs. After confirming the safety of surrounding environment, you can let the children free observation. But my mother was doing on the sidelines of the time, also need to pay attention, do not let children put things into his mouth interest.

ignore the child’s bad imitation and make good example

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Study of Jasmine, the elegant aroma, great, full of the entire small home. ! Ah, delicious” Mom Qingwo technical article, sniffed the flowers, the little guy next to graffiti listened to his mother: ! Let me smell it.” Then the little guy learned his mother earlier action, reveling like He said “really fragrant!”
   Pop-up information on the mother’s friends QQ, she quickly typing on the keyboard. The two year old little guy asked her mother: “What are you doing?” “I’m typing” Mom staring at the screen. “Let me play while word of it!” Like an eager child. His mother sat on a chair, a kind of mold staring at the screen twilight, ten little fingers began to press the keyboard. The mother of the child’s imitation do not feel surprised, she smiled at the children feel fake, I thought:! More cute in fact, a few months ago, the children began to imitate the adults speak and act. He not only imitate mom, but also to imitate Grandma, grandpa and dad.

Grandmother laugh when very special children probably think she laughed and others do not, so that school with my grandmother laugh, the laugh of his, drew a laugh for all the family. Children will learn to like grandfather, smoking a cigarette, holding the mouse on the computer drawing. Once, Grandpa To burn a disc on a computer, the child to the grandfather said, “Let me cut it, I will:” Then he began to follow my grandfather began loading the previous step, the children also learned father, my father not very good eating habits have a good big man, but also picky eaters partial eclipse. A moment that this dish salty, a moment that this soup is too light, he says that he did not want to eat. Recently children eat is like this, pick and choose, but also said that the salty, the light, in short, adult habits, speech and action, he will go to imitate, he do not care what is good and what is bad in it.

  The child is now in this stage is called to imitate the sensitive period. It usually appears in children between one and a half to three years old, the children of this period, there will be selectively imitate family’s words and deeds, and sometimes even taken the trouble to repeat many times, this time, they really are not self-conscious In this constant imitation of the process, they began to form self-awareness.

Mo depending imitate his bad behavior, and make a good example
   Children imitate adults lovely move, so I go to work in the mother, but also a lot more joy in life, the child is to imitate every kind of growth, a self-created, which means he slowly learned to communicate with people, mom also feel relieved, but some mothers worry that their children will imitate adults bad deeds, such as swearing. Many children at this stage, heard who said bad language, will be repeated imitation. This is actually the mother and family needs and strive to create a good environment for the children, the family usually try to correct their bad habits and speech. For instance, some parents of picky eaters partial eclipse also has the habit, for children are not picky eaters partial eclipse of the baby, come on the turn, at least do not always complain about the food does not taste good.